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Monday, March 24, 2025

8 Signs Someone Is Being Nice to You… Just to Use You

Have you ever met someone who showers you with kindness, only to later realize they had an agenda all along? Yeah, same.

 Some people are like those “free trial” apps; you think you’re getting a good deal, then BOOM! They hit you with hidden charges.

So, how do you spot someone who’s just being nice to take advantage of you? 
Psychology has some answers. Here are eight red flags to watch out for:

1. They’re Too Nice… Too Fast

Ever met someone who treats you like their long lost sibling within five minutes? “Oh my gosh, we have SO much in common!” Sure, bestie. But real connections take time. 
If someone is overly sweet right away, they might be buttering you up like toast before they take a bite.

2. They Only Show Up When They Need Something

They disappear for weeks, then suddenly pop up with a “Hey, how have you been?” followed by a casual “By the way, could you do me a tiny favor?” 
If their kindness has a price tag, it’s not kindness: it’s a transaction.

3. They Guilt-Trip You into Helping

“Oh, I guess I’ll just struggle alone since no one cares about me. ” Bruh. If someone makes you feel bad for setting boundaries, they’re not a friend; they’re an emotional con artist. 
Healthy relationships don’t rely on manipulation.

4. They Compliment You... Right Before Asking for a Favor
“You’re literally the smartest person I know! Anyway, can you write my essay for me?” Flattery is nice, but when it comes with a follow-up request, you might just be a human ATM in their eyes.

5. They Don’t Reciprocate Effort
You support them, listen to their problems, help when they need it—but when you need them? Silence. Ghost mode. Suddenly, they’re busier than a WiFi connection during a power outage. 
If someone only takes but never gives, it’s time to reconsider the relationship.


6. They Play the Victim Card Constantly

“I’m just having such a rough time… If only someone could help me. ” They act like life’s punching bag, hoping you’ll swoop in to save the day.
 It’s okay to help friends, but if someone’s always the victim and you’re always the unpaid therapist, something’s off.

7. They Make You Feel Special—But Only in Private

If they act like your best friend behind closed doors but barely acknowledge you in public, be suspicious. A real friend doesn’t treat you like a secret stash of emotional support while showing off other people.

8. They Disappear When You Say No

Ever noticed how some people suddenly lose interest in you the moment you refuse to help? Yeah, that’s because they were never really interested in you, just what you could do for them.
 If your friendship can’t survive a simple “no,” it was never a real friendship.

Final Thoughts

Being kind is great. Being used? Not so much. If you recognize these signs in someone, don’t ignore them. 
You deserve genuine connections: ones where kindness is real, not just a tool for getting favors.

So, next time someone’s overly sweet, ask yourself: are they a real one, or just another free trial with hidden fees?

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